SERA Cycle 3 Introduction and Courses

Project n° 580247-EPP-1-2016-1-FR-EPPKA3-IPI-SOC-IN Activity 5 - ACCEPT /THE STEPS OF ACCEPTANCE 1- Rituals : Acceptance in the relationships start with rituals. This is the moment we start our communication, we realize and wesre noticed. Sometimes it is a smile with a «Hello!» or a question just like «How are you?» We give the message; «I have realized your presence and want to start communicating with you ». The rituals sometimes play the key role in our acceptance. If you don’t choose the correct key, the relationship ends without starting. Spend Time/Have a conversation: In this step, people have a conversation without targeting an aim. Every person sometimes needs to spend time with others without analyzing the conditions around them. The conversation may be about a football match, clothes, fashion, music or weather conditions. 2- Run a business together There is a purpose in the communication and the relationships. At the end of the communication the aim is to release a product. At the end of acceptance and accepting, the production is something like money or information. 3- Psychological game : The people try to be sincere to each other later in their relationship. But it is not so easy to be sincere so they begin to play unconscious psychological games. They convey the messages which can’t be expressed directly in different ways. 4- Sincerity: Accepted as the last step in the relationship, in this step, people reflect themselves as they are, share the things he feels and thinks directly. The feelings and opinions are uncensored. Activity 6 “The person who is in the need for acceptance asks himself/herself “Do people take me into consideration as a human being?” You feel that a person values you by saying “Hello” whereas you can feel valueless when he/she looks at you weirdly. We all try to understand our position in our relationships.” Placement /Life position We need to put ourselves and the others in a definite place. We call these “Life Positions”. The life positions affect our relationship building skills and our acceptance. We choose one of these four positions when we are in relation with a person or a group. 1. I am good, you are not (+, -) 2. I am not good, you are good. ( -, +) 3. I am not good, neither you are. ( -, -) 4. I am good, you are good. ( +, +)